I first heard of Joe AKA “The Feng Shui Guy” from my friend Rachel back when I was her doula and supported her throughout her pregnancy. She told me how when she was ready to manifest her husband and she hired Joe to come Feng Shui her house and do some inner work to help shift the energy for love and marriage. A week later she walked into a bar and met her amazing husband Noah and now they have a beautiful healthy baby boy. Now Joe and his fabulous wife Erin are expecting and I’m so honored because I get to be their doula. YAY !!!! Over the course of of their pregnancy Joe and I had many spiritual talks about energy, love , money , health and he has given me so much great advice as well as tools to implement into all areas of my life. I’m so excited, I just booked him to come Feng shui my house as we transition into the new year. Joe has an amazing book out called SERENE MAKEOVER: Inner Edition This book is all about how to apply Feng Shui to your Inner House ( because what’s going on inside you manifest on the outside) and HEALTHY HOME, HEALTHY YOU This is all about how to Feng Shui your EXTERNAL environment. I really resonate so much with what Joe has to share. It’s so wonderful to witness the beautiful love , partnership and life that him and Erin have created together. In one of our many talks about life I asked what he did to call her in and what they did to get their home ready for baby. This talk turned into a chat about all kinds of life transitions and thought it would make an awesome blog post … So here it is … My Q&A with The Feng shui guy …. my buddy Joe.
WHAT DO YOU DO?
Lori: Tell me about how you work when you do a session (walk me through the process?)
Joe: First, I have to learn before I can speak. This starts with coming in and observing the space. I am looking for clues to help me understand the way the space is currently set up. I also need to listen to the space (which is more of an intuitive process.) Spaces are alive and they have a lot to say. Lastly and most importantly I need to ask questions to the people who live (or work) in that space. In particular, I am paying attention to what is working and what isn’t working for those people. Both annoyances or issues they have with it in its current state. Or where their vision for their life isn’t matching up to their experiences they seek. There is a cause and effect aspect of feng shui. I need to learn what is causing things to show up in a particular way.
Secondly, we create an action plan. One that fits their budget, timeline and aesthetic preferences. This is where the art of feng shui comes in, because everyone is different. Feng Shui is not one size fits all.
Lastly we change up the energy of the space by either moving things around, placing some feng shui “cures” and/or performing a space clearing or blessing.
Lori: When you decided you were ready to meet somebody, what ritual(s) did you do to call her in?
Joe: Before I did anything externally in my space, a lot of work for me was internal. It was literally feng shui for my inner house. It culminated in a book I wrote called Serene Makeover: Inner Edition how to feng shui your life from the inside out. I wrote it about my experience in wanting to call in my wife, Erin and how that process unfolded.
Externally, I had to make some adjustments to what I had been experiencing prior. There have been stages in my life where I was feeling more monk-like and not wanting to be in a relationship and then there are times I have been purposeful about calling in love, passion and sex. My space has always reflected these stages whether consciously or unconsciously.
In this instance, I wasn’t calling in love –generally speaking. I wasn’t calling in any relationship. I was calling in my wife. Not A wife. My wife. (People have sometimes indicated that saying the other has put them into a love triangle) so I wanted to be specific about my intention.
And then everything in my environment was designed to support the calling in of my wife.
I had images (both seen and unseen) in my space that related to being part of a team (in it together), of power couples (equal and balanced), of couples who were affectionate (lots of physical touch which is one of my love languages), of couples who found each other to be attractive (instead of another person to be pals with) and also someone who wanted kids (my vision for my future.)
Some of these were in the form of artwork, some in the form of symbols (Yab-Yum) and also a vision board.
The key was to expand the concept of the vision board off the corkboard and to conceive of my whole home as a vision board. Everything counts.
Lori: When you were calling in your baby, what did you do (what can you do) to feng shui call a baby in?
Joe: Again, this was a very intentional process, both inside and out. The first time we got pregnant (we had two miscarriages before) we immediately found out our whole building was infested with termites. While our actions themselves didn’t “bring about the termites”, we were drawn to this building for a reason. I view everything, positive and negative, through a feng shui lens. Everything in our home is a metaphor for something we are experiencing. The feng shui principle is “what is going on in your space is going on in your life.”
So, first we had to tackle tenting our home and eliminating the external infestation. Returning to our home, it gave us an opportunity to remove anything in our home that was no longer serving our iife. We followed Marie Kondo’s book: The Everyday Magic of Tidying up. We purged and thanked. We discovered what was sparking joy and eliminated the rest. It wasn’t our first trip to the organizing rodeo, but we still purged 23 bags of clothes from several areas of our home that were important to things we were calling in.
And we also shifted the perspective in our room, rotating our bed to a new position, painting the room a soothing, prosperous color and decorated the room with a duvet cover we got on our last trip to Hawaii. It’s our favorite place on the planet (and where we went for our honeymoon) so we were surrounding ourselves with space, abundance and love. And then we got pregnant for the second time. It lasted a bit longer but eventually nature determined that this wasn’t the right genetic combination or the right timing for our lives, and we went through another miscarriage.
We continued to focus on what we sought.
It led to several new steps for us, but this time we were going deep. We got stones that might help with balancing some part of our energy that needed support in sustaining a healthy pregnancy. Rose quartz amongst others. We placed these in a pattern in our bedroom.
We also discovered through some muscle testing that our bedroom was in close proximity to the telephone poles and between the wires and EMF’s from them, we had to address the poles (through an external cure at both the base of the poles and outside our window.) We also purchased a few small devices designed to protect us on an energetic level and placed them directly under our bed facing the direction of the poles.
The last two steps were both relating to our inner feng shui.
First, we spoke to our baby. Out loud. We knew that this little spirit was trying to come through us and we spoke aloud and said it would be a good time and that this soul was welcome anytime. That we were already in love, and that we were here. And we were ready. It was the first time we said it out loud.
(Side note: In the midst of doing our other feng shui cures, we had manifested some long intended projects to come to fruition which were helping to lay the financial foundation for us to be able to breathe easier when deciding to afford having a baby. As my wife and I both work in the entertainment industry, we have struggled with the freelance nature of our business. And this timing was during some particularly good career flow. Bonus!)
Secondly, we discovered that we may have been suffering from some low-level inflammation. It wasn’t that we necessarily were experiencing symptoms, but we thought that perhaps our own inner environment could use some loving up. So we feng shui’ed our diet. We eliminated gluten, sugar, dairy, corn and soy altogether. We added in some greens and minerals and healing nurturing foods. We ate clean and delicious foods. Our bodies didn’t need to hold onto some of the weight we had been carrying around, we had more energy, we felt better, thought better and it coincided with the time that we got pregnant for the third time. And this time it stuck.
And we were beyond grateful for the entirety of this process.
Lori: Can you speak in more detail about the stones you used to help call in your baby?
Joe: Absolutely. We placed six stones underneath our bed. Three round polished Carnelian and three round polished Rose Quartz. The reason we picked multiples of three for each stone is that numerologically speaking, threes represent children in feng shui. Having two pairs of them together represent balance and love. Also the round shape is supportive of children, so there are multiple reasons for the use of this particular “cure.”
Here are some deeper meanings of the stones:
Carnelian is one of the oldest known gemstones, with written records dating back over 4000 years. Carnelian is believed to bring good luck to its wearer. Carnelian is known to protect its wearer from bad energy, as well as boost one’s sense of humor. Physically, carnelian can help with digestive problems and reduce pain associated with the abdomen. It is actually believed to be extremely helpful and beneficial for childbirth.
Rose Quartz is a stone of the heart, a Crystal of Unconditional Love. It carries the energy of compassion, peace, healing, nourishment and comfort. It speaks directly to the Heart Chakra, dissolving emotional wounds allowing one the capacity to truly give and receive love from others. Called the Heart Stone, Rose Quartz may have been used as a love token as early as 600 B.C. and is still an important talisman of relationships. It is quite effective in attracting new love, romance and intimacy.
Lori : How would you Feng Shui a nursery to create an energetically peaceful and sacred space?
You ask the best questions J :-)
Joe: Firstly, I always look for placement for the biggest things first: crib, changing table, seating, bookshelves. And I want to place the resting items into energetically sound positions. (not in the path of the door, not under air vents, windows, etc)
Next I pick color palates which are soothing and calming and that can create a deep peace to permeate through the space.
Next I would add in artwork (images, paintings, photographs, a mobile) that embodies the vibe I am going for.
The final step for me are feng shui cures. Cures are intended to balance the energy of a space.
Himalayan Rock Salt lamps are amongst my favorite items, because they are soft, warm light and they are thought to have relaxing properties due to the creation of negative ions in the space. Negative ions are also found in nature (where ocean meets rock, and the wind blows through the trees. They are sometimes called vitamins of the air. This can help to rebalance the ions of the air which are often filled with positive ions (created by technology, air conditioning, etc) Or the air after a rainstorm.) I’ve also placed crystals (natural geodes or hanging round faceted ones), live plants (without spiky leaves) to help bring life into the space. And chimes to create a sense of harmony.
In our nursery, we placed a fountain (Woodstock bell chime fountain) to help create a flow of energy for now since the room is no longer an office and isn’t being used.) Stagnant energy (or chi) isn’t ideal within streams, our bodies, or our homes. We will re-place this fountain outside of the nursery when our little is born because it’s too much energy (yang) for sleeping.
All of these things can help us to align with the feng shui Principles of balance, harmony and flow.
Lori: What specific stones or cures would you use in in babies room?
Joe: We would continue to use the round polished rose quartz stones in the hospital, in our room when the baby comes home, and eventually in the nursery itself.
Rose quartz is wonderfully powerful on many levels. More on rose quartz:
Rose Quartz is one of the “mothering” crystals. It promotes bonding and is a good stone to place on the stomach during pregnancy, and to be near the baby during birth. It is incredibly soothing in the days to follow. Placing baby milk or food within a circle of Rose Quartz for a few minutes is thought to helps ease colic or feeding difficulties. Rose Quartz is a wonderful “sleep stone” for adults and children helping to preventing nightmares or night terrors and inviting beautiful dreams. It is also thought to help children to not be afraid of the dark.
The other thing that we are drawn to is the goddess Kuan Yin. She is known to be compassionate, loving us unconditionally is known to be helpful with fertility.
She is often symbolized by the color white which in feng shui relates to the metal element (and associated with calling in Children.) She is sometimes posed with a small child or baby. She is very similar to the Mother Mary in the west. She is also sometimes the representation of Avalokiteshvara, the bodhisattva of compassion. When chanting Om Mani Padme Hum, we are offering that sound to Avalokiteshvara to help bless our space, our hearts and our lives.
We found a kuan yin etched into a glass crystal which is a wonderful feng shui cure for a nursery.
Lori:What are some things you will do for LABOR at home?
Joe: First of all, we will have nourishing and delicious snacks at the house. We are big snack people. We will keep it light. But we want to bring a sense of enjoyment to the labor process.
We will also have tunes! Music to help put us into the right mindset and energetic vibe we are going for. We plan to have three different playlists: Zen (calming), Energy (mojo) and Meaningful songs (to connect to our hearts and our history and our love for one another) you .
We will also be mindful of lighting, utilize aromatherapy and soft comfortable clothes which feel good on our skin.
All of which we can bring with us to continue at the hospital.
Lori:What can you take to the hospital?
Joe:I will be bringing a feng-shui travel kit to the hospital. Hospitals are tricky because you can’t move things very easly, you can’t burn things and you can’t make much noise. So you have to be particular about what you can bring.
For me, the first is the energy pattern. It was created by my feng shui master and is designed to help bring balance to any space it is placed in. I will also activate it with some round faceted crystals and will place them on top (either under the bed or on a side table somewhere.) Getting the energy pattern right is setting the foundation of the space up for successful intentions.
Second, I will bring space clearing items: Palo Santo spray (I prefer Sacred Wood Essence brand: sacredwoodessence.com), I will also bring an orange in case I need to perform what is known as The Orange Peel cure to rid the room of old energies from past birthing experiences (note: we only clear what doesn’t align with our intentions. Good experiences (positive chi) can stay. It just requires a small bowl of water, my hands and my voice.
Thirdly, I will bring images of those spiritual teachers or ascended masters whose energy we want present for this birth experience.
I’m so excited for this.
Lori: Can you go more into the orange ritual ?
Joe: Yes! Here is A SIMPLE ORANGE PEEL CURE TO CLEANSE THE STUCK OR NEGATIVE ENERGY FROM YOUR SPACE
What you will need:
A bowl of lukewarm water
Peel the orange. The goal is to end up with nine pieces of orange peel (or multiples of nine) so if you end up with ten or eleven, tear some in half until you get to eighteen pieces total. Place the orange peels into the bowl of water. (You may eat the orange slices, or as you will.)
Walk about the space and use your fingers to flick the water using a mudra (hand position) known as “ousting mudra.” It’s basically where you take your thumb, middle and ring fingers and dip them into the water and flick the water about your space. Traditionally, you would use a sanskrit mantra (phrase) such as HUNG VAJRA PEI (pronounced: hoong vahdra pay) as you walk about the space, flicking the water.
You can also visualize painting your space with light as you do this cleanse.
At the end, stand in the center of the room and say OM MANI PADME HUM nine times.
(pronounced Mum MahNee PodMay Hoom)
Or you can just say thank you and feel the gratitude in your heart. (Or do both.)
Afterwards, you can pour the orange water out near one of the exits of your home for extra home protection.
Or you can take a salt bath and place the water into the bath to cleanse and brighten your own personal energy.
Lori : Anything you did (or would like to offer NEW PARENTS) to help create a sacred space? (After birth, post partum, etc.) To help the transition?
Joe:Our room has already been feng-shuied from the ground up. Everything in the space has been placed on purpose and with purpose. We moved a few months ago (during the nesting phase) and selected this house as the one we wanted this birth experience in. It came with a rain shower which is going to be vital before, during and after labor.
We selected a glider to nurse and swing in. We have placed a pair of Himalayan rock salt lamps into the space to produce the negative ions we discussed earlier. We have placed a Dyson, blade-less fan into the corner of the room for air flow (but no sha chi since there are no blades.) This will allow for moderate air flow and some white noise.
We have placed a rug around the bed that feels good under our feet. We have placed some geodes and crystals for balancing energy. And we recently got a map of Hawaii (made out of Koa wood) for our fifth anniversary and placed that up on the wall as a reminder of what is magical about our world.
Overall, we needed to ask ourselves: what feels nurturing to our vibe. And only allow those things into our space.
Lori: Do you have any other tips, thoughts or advice for people who are going through life transitions?
Joe: My main thought about life transitions is to be in the stage that you are in. “Be where your feet are” is a good feng shui principle for mindfulness. Even if the stage you find yourself in has some discomfort to it. I’m not saying to be a martyr or like the biblical character of Job. But our culture tends to be pleasure seeking and discomfort avoiding…and sometimes there are lessons in the discomfort. If we don’t stay past the initial discomfort we could miss the lesson. And then it has to come around again in another way.
Second, Go with the flow of life (instead of fighting it) but when necessary–be with your obstacles. “The obstacle is the path” is another feng shui principle. We would probably prefer to be past them and onto the next stage. But if there is an obstacle that is recurring on our journey there are only so many times we can ignore it or wish it away before we must make it the focus. And then it can lose its power.
Lastly, pack your sense of humor. Years ago I was bouldering in Colorado and in the process I was facing my “life long fear of heights.” During the process, my instructor kept checking in with me and cracking small jokes. They weren’t roasting me or at my expense. He was masterfully teaching me a lesson about when I have my sense of humor with me, I am more likely to operate at my best (peak) self. So I always come back to that insight whenever I find myself in a state that is challenging. It isn’t also appropriate to act on that sense of humor. But it’s connected to how I want to be. My best self always and all ways.
Lori: Are there stones or cures you’d recommend to help people with life transitions?
Joe: Olive colored crystals are helpful during periods of change. Olive colored crystals and stones aid our receptivity to new ideas.
When dealing with changes, an olive colored crystal can support you on your journey through the turbulent tides. When the vibrant green rays of growth combine with the yellow of pure sunshine, the powerful color ray of olive is born. This combination awakens us to the possibilities that are rapidly evolving. We can use the olive crystals to focus our efforts that began well but now need strength to mature. Olive colored crystals can also help in the pursuit of insight and understanding.
Two olive options are Pyromorphite and Prehnite:
Pyromorphite is used in healing the Heart Chakra. It is used particularly in efforts to rebalance your mind, body, thoughts, and reality.
Prehnite crystals help focus and enhance your efforts to seek wisdom.
Additionally these stones are helpful with qualities to support aspects of life transitions through the unknown:
Garnet is a fantastic stone for the Base (or Root) Chakra. It enhances confidence and survival instincts, allowing you to navigate tricky situations more easily.
Labradorite can feel downright magical. It simultaneously enhances your intuition and mental clarity, inviting you to envision multiple possibilities forward.
When your emotions are too strong to think clearly get some Moonstone. It helps relieve stress and calms you down so you can create some inner harmony.
Lori: Thank you so much !!!!! That was so helpful !!!!!!!!!! Adore you beyond !!!!
Joe: It’s my immense pleasure. You know how much we both love you. Thank you for wanting to offer some of this information to help people on their journeys towards love and whatever other intentions their hearts desire. Mwah!
Here is a little more information in case people are curious to learn more:
BIO: Ariel Joseph Towne
A Feng Shui expert and life coach with an international client list, Ariel loves to take ancient principles and make them simple, relatable and playful. From struggling artists to A-list celebrities, individuals to large families, and start-ups to Fortune 500 companies, Ariel’s clients have been able to achieve their dreams with his support and dedication. Stagnant spaces in clients’ homes and minds are transformed into positive, intentional spaces. And people’s greatest visions of their lives are given energy and encouraged to unfold.
Ariel is the author of Serene Makeover Inner Edition: Feng Shui Your Life from the Inside Out. He has been featured on The Huffington Post and he has also contributed to: The Hot Mom-To-Be Handbook (HarperCollins) and several of Regina Leeds’ books including one in the New York Times bestselling series One Year to an Organized Life (Da Capo).
Ariel has appeared as a guest on The Dr. Oz show, the Lisa Oz show, Million Dollar Listing (Bravo) and most recently Good Day LA. Veria hired him as a host on their show Zen Tripping and he sold a show based on his work to the SyFy network called Force of Nature.
To book an appointment or learn more about the amazing Joe go to his website www.thefengshuiguy.com