“Before you were conceived I wanted you. Before you were born I loved you. Before you were here an hour I would die for you.” – Hawkins

I saw the sweetest thing between a mother and a child once when I was

visiting with an old client of mine. It was time for her daughter to go

to sleep and the mother (my client) asked her daughter what story she

Wanted before bed. The little girl promptly replied, “I want to hear

the story about how I was born “. My client scooped her daughter in her

Arms and began to tell this amazing tale about how this fabulous

little being came to be here.

She started the story from before she met her husband and how she

longed and hoped to meet someone someday that she could fall in love

and have children with. Then one day she went to a dinner party dinner

where she sat next to the most handsome man she had ever seen. The

little girl yelled, “ My Daddy!!!” “Yes”, replied my client. She went

on about their relationship and how they fell in love , got married

and decided they wanted to have a baby. Again the little girl

exclaimed, “That’s when I was in your belly!!!” With a smile, the

mother talked about what it was like to be pregnant with her and how much she

already loved her even before she was born. She told her how she

felt her kicking and wondered if she was a boy or girl and what would the

name would be … and the little girl with excitement shouted out, “If it’s a

boy we will name him Charlie and if it’s a girl, Charlotte “. “Right”,

said the mom. “And then one night I felt pains”, she continued, “and

they came faster and faster and stronger and stronger, so your daddy

and I went to the hospital. We waited and waited”. And the little girl

said “ but no Charlotte”. “So”, said the mom, “I went to sleep and

woke up because I felt it was time to push you out. So I pushed

and I pushed”. Again the little girl exclaimed, “ But no Charlotte”.

“So I pushed more and even harder”, the mom said “and finally … ” And

with that, the little girl yelled, “I was born!!!!!!” “Yes you were

born”, the mother said. “I kissed you all over and told you how much I

love you” . Little Charlotte said, “And you cried tears of joy!! “.

My client told me later that night that at least 3 times a week

Charlotte asks to hear the story of how she was born, that she knows it

By heart and sometimes she even hears her reciting it to her dolls when

She plays with them.

Children LOVE to hear about how they were born. I was beyond obsessed with it!! The book my parents use to read me about how I was born was completely tattered and torn from me never putting it down.

Something I suggest my clients do while pregnant is to make or write a personalized “ I LOVED YOU BEFORE YOU WERE BORN” book or story.

This plants seeds in children that they were wanted and loved before they were even born. Growing up with this is so important for building a foundation of self-love and healthy self-esteem.

Can you imagine if your parents gifted you with a story like this?

You will need – a notebook, scrapbook, journal or you can make a personalized book online at: