“Before you were conceived I wanted you. Before you were born I loved you. Before you were here an hour I would die for you.” – Hawkins
I saw the sweetest thing between a mother and a child once when I was
visiting with an old client of mine. It was time for her daughter to go
to sleep and the mother (my client) asked her daughter what story she
Wanted before bed. The little girl promptly replied, “I want to hear
the story about how I was born “. My client scooped her daughter in her
Arms and began to tell this amazing tale about how this fabulous
little being came to be here.
She started the story from before she met her husband and how she
longed and hoped to meet someone someday that she could fall in love
and have children with. Then one day she went to a dinner party dinner
where she sat next to the most handsome man she had ever seen. The
little girl yelled, “ My Daddy!!!” “Yes”, replied my client. She went
on about their relationship and how they fell in love , got married
and decided they wanted to have a baby. Again the little girl
exclaimed, “That’s when I was in your belly!!!” With a smile, the
mother talked about what it was like to be pregnant with her and how much she
already loved her even before she was born. She told her how she
felt her kicking and wondered if she was a boy or girl and what would the
name would be … and the little girl with excitement shouted out, “If it’s a
boy we will name him Charlie and if it’s a girl, Charlotte “. “Right”,
said the mom. “And then one night I felt pains”, she continued, “and
they came faster and faster and stronger and stronger, so your daddy
and I went to the hospital. We waited and waited”. And the little girl
said “ but no Charlotte”. “So”, said the mom, “I went to sleep and
woke up because I felt it was time to push you out. So I pushed
and I pushed”. Again the little girl exclaimed, “ But no Charlotte”.
“So I pushed more and even harder”, the mom said “and finally … ” And
with that, the little girl yelled, “I was born!!!!!!” “Yes you were
born”, the mother said. “I kissed you all over and told you how much I
love you” . Little Charlotte said, “And you cried tears of joy!! “.
My client told me later that night that at least 3 times a week
Charlotte asks to hear the story of how she was born, that she knows it
By heart and sometimes she even hears her reciting it to her dolls when
She plays with them.
Children LOVE to hear about how they were born. I was beyond obsessed with it!! The book my parents use to read me about how I was born was completely tattered and torn from me never putting it down.
Something I suggest my clients do while pregnant is to make or write a personalized “ I LOVED YOU BEFORE YOU WERE BORN” book or story.
This plants seeds in children that they were wanted and loved before they were even born. Growing up with this is so important for building a foundation of self-love and healthy self-esteem.
Can you imagine if your parents gifted you with a story like this?
You will need – a notebook, scrapbook, journal or you can make a personalized book online at: